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Question:

I have a 15 year old daughter "Sandy" who is in Special Education and all she talks about is becoming a "rock singer". Not only can't she sing, but Sandy is shy. What should I do?

 

Answer:

Many adolescents have dream goals that are viewed by others as unrealistic. However, we never want to be a "dream crusher" because dreams are what motivate, inspire and encourage us to explore various options. Before I could answer your question, I would need to know more information about Sandy in terms of her abilities, disabilities, learning styles, personality and other issues that may interfere with her achieving her goals. Knowing these things will help you understand your daughter and her abilities as you facilitate the broadening of her "reality."

 There are many ways to help your daughter broaden her "reality". Working with Sandy's teacher is one way of helping Sandy explore her dream. You and the teacher can guide Sandy through a planning profile that will enable her to identify the demands that come with being a rock star and comparing those demands with her own strengths and challenges.

 Sandy's teacher and you can also help her explore how one becomes a "rock star" by addressing the following questions:

  • What strengths do I need to become a "rock star" (able to sing, dancing ability,  good memory)?" 

  • What resources are available to me at home, school and my community?

  • Do I need money to begin and who will support me during this time?

  • Is there someone I can interview who has had experience in the music field?

  • Do I need to finish school and go to college to realize my dream?

  • What happens to aging rock stars?  Is this really the career choice for me or are there other options within the music field I can explore?

Once Sandy has the opportunity to learn more about her dream career, she may discover that this is not a realistic choice and may choose to look into other areas in the music field. Consider the following resources to expand your knowledge:

Web Links:

http://www.ici.coled.umn.edu/all/students.html

 A great web site designed by students with links to parent connections, parent and family, parent resources, and other valuable parent focused information.

Additional Transition Websites

Additional Resources:

Kilburn, J. (SWITP), et al (1998). Transition Plans: Guide to the Future; Published by California Department of Education, Special Education Division, Sacramento, CA; 916-445-4643. The focus of this document is on student-centered-planning and preparation that recognized the active involvement of parents and students in the decision making process.

 Young Person's Occupational Outlook Handbook: Descriptions for America's top 250 Jobs (1996); Based on the U.S. Department of Labor's Occupational Outlook Handbook. JIST Works, Inc. (317) 264-3720.

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